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I am inviting you on a journey if you feel called

3/7/2023

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 Vanessa Mechado de Oliveira Andreotti is an Educator and scholar raised in Brazil, and a founding member of Gesturing Toward Decolonial Futures (GTDF). Her recent book (2021) Hospicing Modernity invites us to ask ourselves some important questions

What if racism, colonialism, and all other forms of toxic, contagious divisions are preventable social diseases? What if collective healing will be made possible precisely by facing together - the end of the world as we know it?

​. First we must deal with four denials:
1. Denial of systemic, historical and ongoing violence and complicity in harm
2. Denial of the limits of the planet and of unsustainability of modernity and coloniality
3. Denial of entanglement (we see ourselves as separate) within a wider living metabolism that is bio-intelligent
4, Denial of the magnitude and complexity of the problems we need to face together rather than the simple solutions (that make us feel and look good). that may address symptoms, but not root causes 

She contrasts depth education with mastery. For example with climate change and social justice, mastery does little. As concerned citizens of the planet and activists ask ourselves instead::
1. How do we prepare ourselves to face difficulties, the good, the bad and the ugly?
2. How can we be kind and responsible to ourselves, one another and the land?
3. Can we learn to chooses sobriety, maturity, discernment and accountability in a culture of modernity that often promotes and rewards the opposite?
4. Can we see predicaments rather than problems to be solved?

Her book invites us to become more self aware. How complicit are we? Check out podcasts and her website for opportunities to go forward together for a happier and healthier future.


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January 08th, 2021

1/8/2021

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Human Rights, racism, COVID 19

1/8/2021

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This is  a time of craziness we can feel it in the air. On the one hand I have a dear friend with jail time because she defended her right to walk on the property of her day care that she founded and ran for 17 years. Three self proclaimed white trustees decided they owned the land and brought a case against her! Land seems to represent power and investment, while millions of people have no roofs over their heads. They call it homelessness here in Canada as people move to cities and can't afford rent. In South Africa, where my friend lives in Masiphumelele, the settlement is growing as people desperately move to Cape Town to try to find work. They live in cramped quarters in shacks, yes even with COVID. There are regular fires, the last being in December losing over 1000 houses. People are literarily sleeping under cardboard while the city organises temporary shelter. Fortunately my friend's house remains intact even though her life is in chaos because of racism. The surrounding suburban folks, mostly white, are uncomfortable to say the least. They wonder why 'these people' want to live in their neighborhoods. 
When will we learn that what happens to the poor is a direct  result of our selfishness and greed? Gone is apartheid, but the minds of white middle and upper class people think we can continue with business as usual. It is time to open our hearts and minds to the fact that everyone is important
. Each life has the right to shelter, food, health and education. Each creature has the right to shelter and food, at the very least. We all need clean air. Let's take this time of COVID to clear our minds and see that we need each other. Smile and be kind it is good for the nervous system.
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Start a conversation about racism in your community

7/18/2020

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​ANTI-RACISM EDUCATION 
Racism is a complex social dynamic, not a discreet act. It is a system into which I was socialized. White progressives are white people who think they are not racist, whereas white determines education, health, work, relationships, wealth and lifespan. We see ourselves as objective and unique and exempt ourselves from further examination.

The racial status quo is comfortable for white people and this conversation about racism can be uncomfortable. What can we do with our discomfort? We can use it as a door out or ask ourselves why it unsettles us.
  **We can pay attention to our bodies, our nervous systems and begin this all-important healing process. Our minds, nervous systems, attitudes, relationships, and culture can all have a little more room to grow and transform.

Prejudice and Discrimination
•Prejudice: pre-judgment – everyone has prejudice at some time; it is unavoidable
•Discrimination is action based on prejudice – we all have it. I am less relaxed around a group that I am unsure of. When a racial group’s collective prejudice is backed by the power of legal authority and institutional control, it is transformed into racism.
•People of color may hold prejudices and discrimination against white people but lack the social and institutional power that transforms these into racism. It is temporary and contextual. Whites hold the social and institutional positions to infuse their racial prejudice into laws & policies 

What can white people do?
•Own being white and raise our awareness of our unintended racist conditioning
•The main purpose is for us to become more educated about racism at a deep level and become more self-aware. I can receive feedback on my problematic racial pattern to help my growth. It is not helpful to talk about others unless an example made of a behaviour. It is also not useful getting philosophical about the topic of racism.  

Emma Dabiri suggests the following:
•Stop the denial
•Interrogate whiteness
•Denounce the white saviour
•Stop trying to be a good person
•Abandon guilt
•Pull people up on racism
•Stop reducing BIPOC (black, indigenous, people of colour) to one dimensional characters
•Read- educate yourself and read BIPOC writers fiction and non-fiction
•Interrogate capitalism
•Redistribute resources
•Recognise this is killing you too.

INDIGENOUS ALLY TOOLKIT (Concordia University)
•An Ally disrupts oppressive spaces by educating others on the realities and histories of marginalized people
•An Accomplice works within a system and directly challenges institutionalized and systemic racism, colonization, and white supremacy by blocking or impeding racist people, policies and structures
•A Co-resistor stands together in resistance against oppressive forces and requires constant learning (in relationship, deeply involved, listens critically and understands an issue)
To Be An Ally: 
•First examine your motives (it cannot be about individual or organisational self-interest)
•Actively support the struggle
•Speak up even when you feel scared
•Transfer the benefits of your privilege to those who have less
•Acknowledge that the conversation is not about you
•It becomes a way of life and benefits you as well as the community. It is life long.
Remember:
•Indigenous peoples are the experts of their own realities. They are grandparents, parents, children, siblings, teachers, doctors, social workers, entrepreneurs, human beings. They are resilient.
•Educate yourself on the history of Indigenous Peoples. You will never be an expert, but you can work in allyship.
•Ask, How can I use this in my everyday life?
•What steps can I personally take to amplify marginalized voices?
•How can I use my position and privileges to listen, shift power dynamics and take steps towards reconcili-action?

Things not to say:
•Canada’s indigenous peoples or our indigenous peoples – rather the indigenous peoples of what we now call Canada
•Don’t perpetuate stereotypes like alcoholic etc
•Talk about the nation (correct name) rather than indigenous cultures
•Can you and your people forgive us for what we did? (Your actions are more important than centering yourself).
•Get over it- colonization continues today. Get the statistics of children in care, adults in prison, unemployed, unhoused etc.
•You were conquered (they survived genocide)

The Do's:
•Acknowledge that you are a guest on this land
•Recognise that multiple nations exist on Turtle Island
•Respect any cultural protocols or traditions
•Listen to the experts and ask what you can do
•Build relationships based on mutual consent and trust
•Research to learn more about history
•Continue to support and act in meaningful ways
•Being an ally means risking your voice to elevate others
•Commit to becoming anti-racist vs not racist
•Talk about it, join groups online or in person
•Educate ourselves, reflect on our implicit bias
•Be accountable – own our thoughts, behaviours and call it out

Useful Resources:
•https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GmX5stT9rU&feature=share&fbclid=IwAR2vGTPrUhXQzi245xKUXUf2S6qALlFWZdcYt8g0q2w2xI_A0_bBHip2whE  CBC Racism in Canada
•Baldwin, James (1961) Nobody Knows My Name
•Battalora, Jaqueline (2013) Birth of a White Nation: The Invention of White People and its Relevance Today
•Benjamin, Akua et all (2010) Race and Wellbeing: The Lives, Hopes and Activism of African Canadians
•Bishop, Ann (2002) Becoming an Ally: Breaking the Circle of Oppression (2015) 3rd Edition (2005) Beyond Token Change: Breaking the Cycle of Oppression in Institutions                             
•Davis, Angela (1981) Women, Race and Class, (2012) The Meaning of Freedom and Other Difficult Dialogues
•Devenny, Jenny (2016) Race Cars
•My GrandmotherDiAngelo, Robin (2018) White Fragility
•Elliot, Jane, (1968) Brown Eyes Blue Eyes exercise
•Este, David et al, (2018), Racism and Anti-racism in Canada
•Glassman, Bernie (1998), Bearing Witness: A Zen Master’s Lessons in Making Peace
•Kendi, Ibram X. (2020) Anti-racist Baby, (2020) Stamped: Anti-racism and You, (2019), How to be Anti-racist, (2016) Stamped From the Beginning
•King, Thomas (2012) The Inconvenient Indian, (2014) The Back of the Turtle
•Linklater, Renee (2014) Decolonizing Trauma Work
•McIntosh, Peggy (2019) On Privilege, Fraudulence and Teaching as Learning: Essays 1989-2019. (1989) White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack
•Menakem, Resmaa (2017) ’s Hands
​Oluo, Ijeoma (2018) So You want to Talk About Race
Roediger, David (2002) Colored White: Transcending the Racial Past. (1998) Black on White: Black Writers on What it Means to be White
Saad, Layla F. (2020) Me and White Supremacy
Walker, Alice (2006) We Are the Ones We Have Been Waiting For
Williams, Rev. Angel Kyodo (2000) Zen and the Art of Living with Fearlessness and Grace
Movie of a workshop: The Color of Fear
www.whiteaccomplices.org
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April 21st, 2019

4/21/2019

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My sister Shirley and I had some time together travelling in KwaZulu Natal in January 2016. We began by visiting our Dad's sister Nan and her husband Ian who turns 90 years next January. We had a wonderful visit to Ixopo a Buddhist meditation centre where Gary and I are offering a retreat next January see Buddhist Retreat Centre www.brcixopo.co.za/. We then visited Cathedral Peak in the Drakensberg mountains. Here are a few pictures to show the terrain.
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Aurelia Kaitesi of Love and Care
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Nontobeko Moni of Khayelitsha Grief and Loss Project
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I am inviting white people to start the conversation about racism in your community. In the blog you will find lots of information. Read, read, read, then start with a few people. It is essential that we own our whiteness. It is not about guilt and shame

4/21/2019

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Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about Racism?
A unique opportunity to building a socially just community in Cowichan
 
 “Racial discomfort is seldom experienced by white people. White fragility is triggered by discomfort and anxiety; it is born of superiority and entitlement. It protects white advantage.”
                                                Robin DiAngelo, White Fragility (2018)
 
Presenter and Moderator: Heather Ferris, a local clinical counselor and longtime anti-racism activist
 
Racial equity is possible, but it takes a willingness to transform our colonial conditioning and notice and disrupt the systems that keep racism alive.
 
 “White engagement in racial justice work is ultimately self-liberation.” Leticia Nieto, coauthor of Beyond Inclusion, Beyond Empowerment: A Development Strategy to Liberate Everyone
 
Everyone is welcome. All it takes is an open heart and mind, diligence and a belief that we are the ones we have been waiting for to begin the healing process.
 
A follow-up practice group will be organized if there is interest. 
By donation to cover costs plus expenses
heather@mindfulnessdevelopment.com
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    At last something we can do for the great turning of our times! 

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